Did we stay calm?
Siya Kolisi became the first black South African captain to lift the William Webb Ellis Trophy when the Springboks beat England 32-12 to win the 2019 Rugby World Cup last weekend.
A famous and historic win, and his country celebrates.
His post-game interview in the immediate aftermath was equally inspiring.
Just minutes after the game he says “A team like this, we come from different backgrounds and different races but came together with one goal and wanted to achieve it. I really hope we have done that for South Africa, to show that we can pull together.”
“We can achieve anything if we can work together as one.”
In that moment, Siya could be excused some personal indulgence, yet remains humble and fully present. While he appreciates his place in history, he understands the importance of the win for his country.
It is a victory bigger than himself and his team. They are the example their country can follow. As he speaks, he is not only leading his team, the world is watching, and he decides to lead his country.
He builds this narrative in the knowledge that he can well and truly back it up.
As TD Jakes said “Your words will tell others what you think. Your actions will tell them what you believe.”
His performance on the field have told us what he believes, he is now telling us what he thinks.
This is what resilient leadership looks like.
I have spent a lot of time studying and learning about resilience.
Conversations about resilience naturally focus on how we cope with adversity, but it is also our capacity to deal with our successes.
It is our clarity and rationality in the face of amplified situations, be it dealing with crisis or celebrating victory.
Dan Abrahams in his wonderful “The Sport Psych Podcast” interviews writer Ben Lyttleton about his terrific book ‘Edge: What Business Can Learn from Football’ and quotes Tim Harkness Head of Sports Science and Psychology at Chelsea FC, who defines resilience as:
“Accurately assessing threats and opportunities and allocating emotional resources accordingly”.
Sport is very good at reflecting on experiences both positive and negative, the wins and the losses, with the intention of gaining as much knowledge, insight and understanding from a learning perspective to assist the next time we are in similar circumstances, in most cases, the next game we play.
It builds habits and systems to achieve this. The game ‘post-mortem’ is an integral part of the process of growing, and we are always seeking ways to make it more effective so as to fast track learning.
Sport understands that resilience is learnable, and while some already have the implicit skills, for most they are learned. In some cases, the capacity to develop skills of resilience will be the difference between success and failure in many endeavours, individually and collectively.
One of the reasons Siya is so humble in this moment is that he has trained for it. His team’s success would come as no surprise to him, and he has a very deep well of personal and team experiences to prepare him for this moment.
A lot of the work I do with leaders at designCEO focuses on resilience, building the skills personally and organisationally to “allocate emotional resources accordingly” in both victory and defeat.
Many of my personal learnings in relation to resilience come from my lived experience as a CEO of AFL clubs. This was a test I failed often, tough lessons learned when dealing with the ups and downs, often with an inappropriate allocation of emotional resources. Fortunately, I also had the opportunity of working with leaders and mentors who had built the requisite resilience to thrive in an often unforgiving environment.
I well remember former Adelaide Football Club Senior Coach (coincidently now High-Performance Manager of England Rugby), whom I worked with at the Melbourne Football Club, starting meetings when reviewing our responses during difficult and ambiguous situations by asking:
“Did we stay calm?”
He understood that unless we “allocated the appropriate emotional resources”, we had little chance of achieving anything close to an optimal outcome.
The question required us to reflect on our own responses and their likely impact on others in the decision-making group.
After completion of the analysis, we then ask:
“What have learned, and what would we do differently next time?”
They are simple questions but powerful. Remember, “it is the hard days that define us”, the times when we’re are most tested will provide the greatest insights, and the opportunities to learn resilience.
Siya Kolisi, you set a suburb example.
A quote, a book and some inspiration…
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